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“I don’t know what Freedom is”.

This was the title of an article I read recently. I wanted to read further . . . 

It contained a number of examples of what Freedom might be . . . things like:

. . . “being able to go for a walk at 3pm on a work day without asking for permission”

. . . “being able to kiss your loved one at 11am on a work day without asking for permission”

. . . “being able to go to the park to play with your child just because you want to”.

When I talk about Freedom I make the distinction between Freedom FROM . . . and Freedom TO.

In this article I could see a thread connecting each of these examples . . . the idea that Freedom TO have these experiences is the result of Freedom FROM . . . PERMISSION.

It got me thinking . . .

. . . is the OPPOSITE of Freedom . . . PERMISSION?

The article’s author gave these examples to say Freedom isn’t always a “big thing”.

True . . . not controversial . . . yet not particularly insightful either.

You may have heard or seen me talk & write about the 3Fs . . . the core elements we all want in life . . . and the deepest reasons we run our own businesses.

The 3Fs are Financial security, Freedom and Fulfilment.

And they come in THIS sequence . . . because you can’t have deepest Fulfilment without Freedom . . . and you can’t have complete Freedom without Financial security.

When I describe the 2nd F . . . Freedom . . . I talk about COMPLETE Freedom.

Complete Freedom in 5 areas to create the full 2nd F . . . Freedom to choose:

– Location
– Time
– Money
– Purpose
– Relationships

In other words . . . Freedom to choose where, when, how, why and with whom.

These are all Freedom TO . . . .

The article I read . . . without saying it explicitly . . . was emphasising Freedom FROM . . . .

From what?

The answer . . . I believe . . . was hidden within those examples.

Freedom from PERMISSION.

And it struck me . . .

. . . how each of these 5 freedoms are constrained by a belief in the need for PERMISSION.

Freedom to choose location . . . may be constrained without “permission” from family, friends, employer . . .

Freedom to choose how to spend time . . . may be constrained without “permission” from those you’ve made commitments with . . .

Freedom to choose how much money to spend . . . may be constrained without “permission” from your bank . . .

Freedom to choose your purpose . . . may be constrained without “permission” from people you want alongside you in that pursuit . . .

Freedom to choose your relationships . . . may be constrained without “permission” from your place of work, from your family, from your friends . . .

AND YET . . .

These permissions SEEM required “from someone else” . . .

. . . which is actually an ILLUSION.

Because we DON’T need EXTERNAL permission . . . first, we need INTERNAL permission.

We have been indoctrinated . . . right from birth . . . through school . . . in employment . . . in social situations . . .

We have learned to FIT IN.

This has made us extraordinarily successful as a human species.

It’s also made us “successful” as individuals . . . IF you define success as “agreeing with accepted expectations”.

Yet “normal expectations” don’t include complete Freedom. Hence, when we WANT complete Freedom we must make a DELIBERATE CHOICE.

To have any and all of the 5 Freedoms . . . we need to give ourselves PERMISSION to make that choice.

Our BIGGEST constraint from having Freedom is the person we see in the mirror.

The biggest barrier to having a life that enjoys all 5 Freedoms is . . . you.

When we release our inherited, expected, unquestioned constraints . . . when we give ourselves PERMISSION . . .

. . . then . . . and ONLY then . . . can we create . . . ANYTHING.

There’s a phrase I heard, probably 20 years ago, that I still actively use is this:

*** It’s Easier To Get Forgiveness Than Permission ***

How about we start giving OURSELVES permission . . . starting this very minute?

Can you?

Do you?

Will you?